Your Memphis divorce attorney is not your private detective. However, alot of problems that I have seen could have been prevented by a little pre-relationship googling.
Once you are married, there’s not alot you can do online to find out if your spouse is having an affair. Briefly, check www.myspace.com and www.facebook.com for profiles you don’t know about. If they have a profile and you don’t then you can frequently still check who they are friends with. Are they avoiding natural mutual friends who they should have friended? That can be a red flag. Start your own profile and get some friends and then friend your spouse. Wait some and then try to put your status as married to the spouse. If he/she doesn’t accept that can be a big red flag.
A much better idea is to check someone out before you go beyond a first date. I once had a woman try to check me out by using her friend’s profile, I was duly impressed by her thoroughness. (Of course, she really should have picked a more attractive friend and the other friend who broke down and told me what was up when she called to tell me to check my profile for messages didn’t impress me as to their competence. Good effort though.)
Don’t forget government websites. Alot of women try to suss out marital status by asking about the divorce terms. That’s tough. The key thing is to ask about parenting time. If its not set then that’s a red flag as parenting plans are required in Tennessee. When the other hopefully ex-spouse still resides in the big counties you can check the online docket. If there’s no divorce recorded in either the Chancery or Circuit court then they probably aren’t divorced and in fact don’t even have papers files. If they are divorced there should be a final decree as the last docket entry. You can also find out how many serious lawsuits they’ve gotten into.
Another hotbed of information is the criminal record search on the criminal court site. The shelby county registrar can also be a really good source of information. If there is a marital residence, there will usually (not always though) be a quitclaim recorded in connection with a divorce . If one of the spouses resides outside Shelby County then you might have to do one of the paid background searchs such as intellisius.
Above all don’t forget google. It’s amazing what you can find sometimes typing “name without middle initial” city into google. Add wife or marriage also to see. (newspapers now publish almost all marriage announcements on the internet.) This has sometimes led to potential evidence of affairs and such. If you actually find out the name of the mistress search the two together to really see what will come out.
Googling is de rigeur nowdays for alot of things. Practically every big case I’ve done the opposing counsel has clearly done a search on me and I on them.
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